Why are independent women so intimidating to guys?

Often, many successful women find themselves not having companions or someone to go home to after a long day of work. Don’t you always ask yourself why that is the case? I am sure you do. Well, the answer is exactly that – YOU ARE A SUCCESSFUL AND INDEPENDENT OF ANY GUY!

Women have learnt that having their own cars, homes and well paying jobs has become a burden, when it comes to the love sphere of their lives. This is mainly because, in the past, our mothers were house wives and dependant on our fathers to bring food home and to take care of them. Today, it is the twentieth century and the sisters are doing it for themselves in all avenues of life – where there is potential for success, accept for romance. Like it or not, men do want to feel needed and in power and the sisters of this day an age do not give them the chance to do so – at least this is what they say.

Men even become reluctant in approaching most women that are successful as most of them feel that the woman is out of their league, taken by some other rich man or just because she will not have time for him. This is not the case. Men are different and to them it does not click that the beautiful and successful women they see are super women and also want to be approached by them. Successful, independent women also want to be loved and cared for. THEY DO NOT BITE.

Two people walk out of a building and into a story

The day my parents walked out of Mowbray Maternity. That was my birthday. That was a start of a new life for them. This meant new beginnings for all of us, including the rest of my family members – so they thought. However, they had not planned. This was a problem for them.

Seeing this beautiful girl in their arm just made everything feel like a fairy tail. Everything was just perfect and they did not have a care in the world, but for ME – little did they know. A day came when reality struck them. Life was hard and they were still recovering and adjusting to the post apartheid era. They had to think of ways to raise this young baby they had brought into this world. It was all a big story.

They had to work harder and bring back money to raise me. They had to think of the perfect ways to enforce discipline on me as I grew older. Expenses became higher; I had to be enrolled to a school, they had to buy textbooks and had to pay for me to get to school. This was all new to them because once again they did not plan.

Parenthood is a mission and a life changing journey. One needs to take into consideration all of the factors involved in raising a child. Life does not become the same again – in fact it can become a nightmare of a fairytale. People need to plan and not live for today’s perfections and ignore what the rest the story of life holds.

My inner and outer self confident

Self-confidence is all about you and yourself. You create an image of who you see in yourself, who you are and where you see yourself in the future. Thus the only person that should control how you feel about yourself is you!

In high school I never really believed in my capabilities, so much that when I was congratulated for an achievement, I would disregard it. I compared myself to other, but never acknowledged my own strengths and was never proud of my strong points. It is only when I left high school and found my badges and certificated/ awards – that I never appreciated, that I realized how intelligent I really am.

So many of us wallow around, head down, lacking confidence. A person tends to respond this way when they fear other people gossiping about them. Of you were to hold your head up high while whispers follow you, you’d become even stronger and be perceived as such.

The moment you worry about what is said about you, you’ll end up with a worst-case-scenario character analysis in your head and lying awake at night worrying what others say about you.

I say, shine on! Know yourself, ignore what you think is being said about you and know that for you to have lived through this life someone better be talking about you! It only makes you stronger and confident and it shows that you must be doing something right to be the centre of someone’s attention.

I share my inner and outer self confidence…